Facing Fear with Humour and a Flying Sandwich

Fear is Funny

When you've lived with a fear of wasps - and happen to be a positivity coach - facing fear with humour can feel like a personal growth challenge. Unfortunately I passed that fear onto my daughter. So when we sat outside Quex Farm on a beautiful day, iced oat milk vanilla lates in hand, sandwiches on the table - we weren't entirely relaxed. The food was perfect. The setting lovely...until the wasps arrived.

They were everywhere - circling the food, landing on plates, on my tomato, even one right on my glasses. One got a bit too friendly with my daughter's sandwich, she stood up to escape, so I grabbed a knife to help...

I flicked the wasp - and accidentally launched her toast across the patio onto the stones.

Facing fear with humour

We were laughing so hard. My grandson, totally calm - he'd been stung that week - just sat there and watched it all unfold.

I looked at him and said, "Don't you think we handled that well?"

He says: "No."

It was his deadpan "No" that made my daughter and I collapse in hysterics. sometimes... (not always) Fear is Funny.

Now, I could have taken that 'No' as proof that I'm still a total wasp wimp.

But that's not how I roll.

I'm Suzi Tyler, positivity coach.

I choose to see progress.

Negative Bias says: "You panicked again."

Positive Mindset says: "You lasted longer, laughed louder, and kept your daughter's toast mostly intact."

Because when you can laugh out loud at what used to cause a full-on panic - That's the reset right there.

In this context, Fear is funny. And that is growth.

When you can laugh at what used to create serious panic - that's the reset.

It's not always about eliminating fear. Sometimes, it's about deciding how close we're willing to let it come. That's proximity fear - and we may not want to rewire all of it. I might let a wasp near me now. But on my face? No thanks.

It's not avoidance.

It's a boundary.

And sometimes, holding that line is what keeps the nervous system regulated.

Rewiring doesn't always mean removing the fear. Sometimes, it means redefining what feels safe - and choosing your response from there. That's the reset.

Now if you have a fear that is holding you back and you're ready to moderate the fear, not eliminate it...

That's where the mindset work can begin.

Because sometimes, resetting your fear starts with laughing at it. And choosing to feel a little freer next time.

Fear doesn’t always disappear - but your reaction can shift. Sometimes the win isn’t staying perfectly calm… it’s catching yourself mid-panic, laughing instead of spiralling, and realising this time felt different.

💛 If you’re working on emotional reactivity, let’s build tools that actually stick.

📩 DM me or explore the Rapid Reset Series to start rewiring how you respond.