There are SO MANY WAYS to motivate ourselves but the simple TRUTH is, we are driven to do what we ENJOY. Everyone has different preferences based on personality and experiences. Most of us prefer to avoid pain and suffering and seek pleasure. The only exception is if the pain and suffering is familiar or has a significant pay off for us in some way. It supports us to create routines, habits and familiarity that align with the person we want to become and goals we choose to achieve.
- Just like a puppy being trained with food, love or play, we want to learn how to bring out the best in ourselves.
- We each have a unique personality which we have to get to know, so making time for reflection, planning and preparation is essential.
- It is easiest to train ourselves to do things when we understand our purpose and reasons.
- It is enjoyable to train ourselves with self-compassion, self-acceptance and caring, not just for others, but ourselves.
- If the very thing we love is harming our emotional or physical health and wellbeing, it will take great expertise to navigate this challenge.
- Practice the following ‘Future You Visualisation’ Process. Take three deep breaths to relax your body and calm your mind. Decide who you want to become and why? Then imagine the ‘FUTURE YOU’ thanking the NOW YOU for whatever it is you are wanting to experience and accomplish.
- Begin a journal to explore ‘triggers’ which sabotage your best intentions. Are there any limiting beliefs you become aware of such as “I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m useless’, ‘I’m not worthy or deserving’, ‘I’m not smart, good looking or lucky enough’. Luckily, we can replace ‘false or outdated’ beliefs with POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY techniques. If you don’t know how to use these techniques, I’d be happy to teach you.
- MEASURE – It helps to focus your mind to give it a realistic, measurable, ideal time frame.
- COMMIT That means quitting excuses and reasons why you can’t.