Tag: Self-esteem

3 Tips to Improve Relationships

Healthy, happy relationships are possible when both parties are responsible for managing their own emotional states.  Never make someone responsible for YOUR good feelings.  Open communication is vital to prevent little resentments stacking up to destroy even the best relationships.  Low self-confidence and low self-esteem will be picked up by the other person and reflected back to you in different ways. Intolerance and impatience are never included in a recipe for relationship harmony and happiness.

1.  Use ‘I’ sentences:

“I feel sad/angry/happy/hurt/upset …when you…      what can we do about it?”

Using ‘I feel’ sentences, rather than ‘you……’ is taking ownership of your feelings rather than attacking, criticising or blaming your partner.  Whenever you notice yourself saying ‘you…..’ notice how it calls out the other’s ego and puts them on the defensive.  The ego will feel threatened and will automatically want to shift the blame round to you.  Therefore changing your conversation to ‘I prefer, I feel, I would really appreciate if you could help me here….., REALLY HELPS to build rapport and trust.

2.  Playful Passion

If you want to re-ignite some playful passion, how you say things is even more important than content.  A soft tonality with loving assertiveness is what you are aiming for.  ‘Think ‘playful’ before you speak.  A playful smile with playful eyes is perfectly passionate.  By contrast, impatient snappy, confrontational, disrespect is a passion killer.   Playing games is a great way to ignite fresh beginnings, perhaps you could decide to choose one new idea each week/month to stimulate fun.

3.  Active Listening

Choose an object that one of you holds and whoever is holding the object gets to speak while the other listens without interrupting.  This helps to calm the conversation down and prevents you from talking over each other.

It isn’t just that someone isn’t actively listening and fully present, it is also that they will be listening through their own personal filter of understanding and emotional state.  If your partner is tired, stressed or unhappy, this will affect how they perceive anything you want to say.   If someone has come into a relationship with old hurts or prejudices, this will distort their perception of reality.   If you feel disrespected or misunderstood, these feelings fuel resentment and destroy passion.

You could ask:  ‘I feel you are resenting me, have I said or done something to upset you?’  If your partner offers some constructive criticism or insight, let them know you will take it on board.  If they offer destructive criticism and there is a definite difference, you have a choice whether or not, to let it in.     Perhaps the timing wasn’t quite right and an open conversation can achieve a better result if rescheduled to a time you are both feeling good.

Get help with your relationship

Not all of these kinds of communication will help with all relationships.  It is important to create an inner confidence and self esteem in order to fully benefit from the above.  Passion is destroyed by resentments building up into barriers that block love and intimacy.   Playing games is a great way to stimulate fun and fresh beginnings.   If love and trust is the energy that sparkles inside deeply fulfilling relationships, playfulness is the fun that unblocks passion.

For confidential one-to-one couples and individual relationship breakthroughs, get in touch with Suzi on 07836 635233 or email suzi@rapid-health.co.uk

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Setbacks or Sabotage?

Setbacks or Sabotage?

How you deal with setbacks is significant.  Success coaching inspires us to seek the learning opportunities in any and all setbacks.    Setbacks are never failure.  There will always be stops, starts, pauses…their benefits are to teach us something.  Sometimes, not getting what we think we want, is actually a wonderful stroke of luck.

Sabotage is very different.  This behaviour can put constant roadblocks in the way of our happiness and success.  Sabotage can eventually destroy any hope of lasting fulfilment.

Breakthrough Sessions not only explore values, goals, preferences; they illuminate any blind spots, such as sabotage and hidden fears.

Becoming your Best

1. Breakthrough limiting behaviours or procrastination.

2. Are you judging yourself as guilty of something?  Guilt is another cause of sabotage.

3. Reprogram yourself with positive self belief.

3. When you align your subconscious beliefs with the values that are most important to you, your life can unfold with positive anticipation and adventure.

Get in touch with Suzi on 07836 635233 for a free 30 min discovery chat.

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10 Tips to Power your Self-Belief & Self Esteem

Do you suffer with low self-worth or low self-esteem?

  1.  Criticism withers you.  Praise builds you up.  If you are hard on yourself or perfectionist you may frequently feel you are ‘not enough’.  Spend the next 21 days repeating over in your mind  “I am enough”   Write it on your mirror, everywhere to allow it to really sink in.  And don’t worry if you don’t believe it, with sufficient determination and repetition, your unconscious mind will eventually believe!
  2. Decide what you want and why?  Get really clear, as your ‘whys’ are your motivators that inspire you into action.
  3. Every morning choose one thing to appreciate about yourself, so that at the end of the year you have a long list of positives that feed your self esteem.
  4.  Reward yourself every day with something enjoyable to look forward to, such as a delicious breakfast after an early morning workout.
  5.  Forgive past mistakes and take forward only the positive learnings.
  6. Take the focus off yourself.   Look outside your current difficulties and explore how you can make a positive contribution to someone else, your wider community or world.   You can grow your self worth super fast with this powerful action.
  7. Become aware of your self talk.  Make the pictures and words you use in your mind encouraging.
  8. Flush out those pesky limiting beliefs and replace with perky pleasurable ones instead.
  9. If you feel you are unappreciated, give out appreciation even more.  Appreciating the best in others can encourage others to appreciate the best in you.
  10. Take constructive criticism practically but not personally.  Reject destructive criticism and use ‘constructive’ criticism to improve.

“If you suspect your beliefs are holding you back, get in touch for a brief chat to find out how I can help you. Suzi”

 

 

Mindfulness Meditation Evening

2015-06-02 21.43.48Learn Mindfulness Meditation at my Home Practice in Birchington-on-Sea.  Booking essential as each group will be up to 15.  You will learn a powerful short-cut to slow your brainwaves.

Get in Touch if you wish to learn simple steps to living mindfully
CALL SUZI 07836 635233 TO FIND OUT MORE.

8 Green Road, Birchington, Kent. CT7 9JZ

  •  You will learn how to de-stress with three conscious breaths.
  •  Discover which style of meditation suits you most.
  •  Learn how to access the alpha and theta brainwave states for healing, creativity, confidence and inspiration.

“Learn how to relax your mind with simple short cuts that slow your brainwaves.”

Bonus: Free guided meditation

Look and feel more attractive  You will discover that meditation is not just for health, all those happy ‘hormones’ will help you to ooze a calm self-confidence that feels amazing too!

If you are new to meditation you might find it enjoyable to start with guided meditations.  You can request a free meditation to sample to help you sleep, feel more confident, or help to ease pain.

Each meditation contains leading edge transformational technologies.”  Suzi

 

Break the cycle of mood-swings, stress & hormonal-imbalances

Hormonal Imbalances:    Do you snap or shout at your loved ones?   Do you wage war or erupt like a volcano more often than you’d prefer?

Mood swings:  If your moods ignite with gusto, it could be that pushed down emotions such as anger, guilt or shame are the ‘hidden’ cause.  Fatigue, time pressures are also stressors that increase the likelihood of these outbusts.

Break the cycle of food cravings, too much sugar and stress

Food cravings  Cortisol is released in response to stress triggers.    A craving for sugar creates a cycle that eventually fatigues the adrenals with more mood swings.

Too much sugar causes blood sugar level fluctuations that crash energy casing further food cravings.

Too much stress creates cortisol, with any excess of this hormone being converted to sugar.   At this point, weight gain, skin and digestive sensitivities may arise.  Further stress causes food cravings and fatigue … so the cycle of hormonal imbalance continues….

Solution   With a willingness to change, you can break free from stressful behaviours.

If  you desire a new ’empowered’ way of living with choice over your moods, call +44(0)1843 846947, or call/text +44(0)7836 635233.   I’d love to help you.  Suzi x

 

 

Are your Beliefs Sabotaging your Happiness?

If positive, happy feelings create better health, how can positive beliefs also support you? During many client breakthroughs, I have noticed three core beliefs that block happiness. If you rate less than 8 out of 10, you will be harming your own happiness potential…and health.

  1. Deserving: Often concerns about guilt, not good enough, past traumas.  Rate yourself out of 10 – How deserving of ‘happiness’ do you feel? 10 – Yes or 0 – No, I don’t feel worthy & deserving of happiness.
  2. Possibility:  Often concerns about family history, past failures, genetics, nothing works.  It is possible for you to be happy? ~ How true does this feel? 10 – Yes it’s very possible for you to feel happy or 0 – No, it’s impossible.
  3. Safety:  Often concerns men, past experiences, jealousy, expectations.  It is safe for you to be happy? 10 – Yes it is very safe for you to feel happy, or 0 – No, it isn’t safe for you to be happy.

If you rated 5 or lower in any of the above, your beliefs are limiting your happiness.

If your beliefs are sabotaging your happiness, get in touch with Suzi at suzi@rapid-health.co.uk to book a 1-2 hour breakthrough to move forward confidently.  07836 635233   Video Skype: SuziTHealth.

 

 

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