3 Tips to Deal with Disappointment
Why Disappointment can limit your potential. Disappointment is the emotion we feel when contrasted with a preferred expectation or ideal. Disappointment feels terrible! It is common to feel angry when we are hurt and upset, so for some, disappointment triggers anger. Just like the classical Pavlov’s Dogs theory of conditioning an emotional response, disappointment, like many other uncomfortable emotions, can become a conditioned response that creates fear and avoidance. Fearing disappointment can become a significant problem when stacked through repetition and association.
1. Anger is an active energy and as long as you don’t release your anger with aggression, you can release anger with any form of physical exertion. Sport, exercise of any kind helps to process feelings of disappointment.
2. Disappointment is an emotional state and you have the power to change how you feel. Put your hand on your heart, breath in and out deeply as though you are breathing through your heart. Continue to do so whilst imagining a favourite person, pet or loved one. Take yourself on a holiday from cares or responsibilities for a few minutes whilst you allow yourself to turn up the colour, sounds, feelings of being on your favourite holiday with someone you love. Make the picture big, bright and happy. Continue to breath through your heart and notice how easy it was to change your emotional state. So now decide how you are going to move forward and get busy creating a value inspired life.
3. If you like to write things down, clarify the disappointment and ask the question – how specifically is it a problem for me? Having accepted and acknowledged responsibility for the problem, how can you manage or improve the situation? What one action can you take? Write it down? If possible, choose three learnings or actions you can take within the next 24 hours and watch the helplessness disappear.
Disappointment paralyses growth Humans are not designed to be perfect, yet we aspire to a perfection world. High achievers with high standards will always be perfecting….In the long run, high achievers anxiety destroys, health, happiness, inner peace and fulfilment.
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