Category: Therapy

Can Anxiety be Changed or Improved?

BREATH IN CALM AND BREATH OUT WITH A SMILE – Practice this mindfulness exercise whenever you remember throughout the day & evening for 21 days and notice the change within your body and mind.

Anxiety is a habit of fearing the worst case scenario.   Anxiety arises from a healthy amygdala in your brain scouting for danger to keep you safe.   Unfortunately any underlying fear based belief will fuel anxiety and keep it limiting your quality of life.

Beliefs such as ‘The world is a dangerous place’, or ‘people are not safe’ or ‘I have to always be on guard’  or ‘I’m afraid of humiliation’, ‘looking stupid’ will fuel anxiety and limit a fun-free healthy, happy YOU.

Apart from replacing old beliefs with new empowering beliefs, there are other ways to override the brain’s natural tendency to be negative.

THE MAGIC IN A SMILE   Learn what happens when you smile and why smiling causes happiness.  Apart from relaxing the facial muscles and calming the nervous system, smiling releases neuropeptides (tiny molecules) that allow neurons to communicate.  They facilitate messaging to the whole body and when you smile, the feel good neurotransmitters dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are all released.  This not only relaxes and calms your entire body, but can lower your heart rate and blood pressure.   Endorphins also act as a natural pain reliever – 100% organically without potential side effects.  The more you smile the more effective you are at breaking the brain’s natural tendency to think negatively.  If you smile often enough, you end up rewiring your brain to make positive patterns more often than negative ones. 

LETTING GO OF ATTACHMENTS  & OUTCOMES  – This includes:  PEOPLE, PLACES, THINGS, LIFE, FEARS, THE FAMILIAR, PAST, EXPECTATIONS…  Yes easier said then done.   Imagine for a moment, if there was a land slide and you found yourself falling off a cliff with rocks.   You attempt to cling onto any great lump of rock that is travelling alongside you.  You are clinging to it for dear life, thinking – ‘I’ve got to hold onto this’.  Well it doesn’t do a thing for you and it’s only making you more anxious and it is only when you realise this, you let go and relax.

Everybody is heading for death, yet we are ALL clinging to things in the hope that we will be safe.  And even though everything is moving, shifting and changing, we attach ourself to things and name all sorts of reasons and responsibilities –  wearing ourselves out gripping onto that rock.

So the wise thing to do is simply let go and relax.  

Suzi Tyler – Breakthroughs: Confidential Non-judgemental ‘in person’: Kent, London & Video Skype

+44(0)7836 635233  Email:  suzi@rapid-health.co.uk

 

10 Tips to Power your Self-Belief & Self Esteem

Do you suffer with low self-worth or low self-esteem?

  1.  Criticism withers you.  Praise builds you up.  If you are hard on yourself or perfectionist you may frequently feel you are ‘not enough’.  Spend the next 21 days repeating over in your mind  “I am enough”   Write it on your mirror, everywhere to allow it to really sink in.  And don’t worry if you don’t believe it, with sufficient determination and repetition, your unconscious mind will eventually believe!
  2. Decide what you want and why?  Get really clear, as your ‘whys’ are your motivators that inspire you into action.
  3. Every morning choose one thing to appreciate about yourself, so that at the end of the year you have a long list of positives that feed your self esteem.
  4.  Reward yourself every day with something enjoyable to look forward to, such as a delicious breakfast after an early morning workout.
  5.  Forgive past mistakes and take forward only the positive learnings.
  6. Take the focus off yourself.   Look outside your current difficulties and explore how you can make a positive contribution to someone else, your wider community or world.   You can grow your self worth super fast with this powerful action.
  7. Become aware of your self talk.  Make the pictures and words you use in your mind encouraging.
  8. Flush out those pesky limiting beliefs and replace with perky pleasurable ones instead.
  9. If you feel you are unappreciated, give out appreciation even more.  Appreciating the best in others can encourage others to appreciate the best in you.
  10. Take constructive criticism practically but not personally.  Reject destructive criticism and use ‘constructive’ criticism to improve.

“If you suspect your beliefs are holding you back, get in touch for a brief chat to find out how I can help you. Suzi”

 

 

Are you coping with grief?

Are you struggling to cope with a stressful relationship breakup or death of a loved one?

Losing someone or something you love is very painful. After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger and guilt.  Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up. As you deal with your loss, remember that  it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the pain to pass.

Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice – your loved one would never want you to suffer.  We can get so locked into grieving and depression that it is easy to forget those who are living.

Loss is a personal trauma that can feel overwhelming.  It is helpful to allow your feelings to be whatever they are,  to just accept any emotions of guilt, anger, blame, regret and sorrow.

We begin the desparate road of asking non answerable questions, looking for all that we personally could have done differently. What others could or could not have done.  Prolonged emotional pain can change brain chemistry that leads to depression and isolation.  It is useful to distract yourself to keep your spirits up, but sooner or later you will benefit from getting making peace with your loss in whatever way helps you.

If you are wanting some confidential help with your feelings – Call Suzi on 01843 846947 or 07836 635233

Coping with a Breakup, Separation or Divorce

It’s never easy when a marriage or other significant relationship ends. The breakup of a long-term, committed relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. It is a difficult time to get through. Even in the midst of the sadness and stress of a breakup, you have an opportunity to learn from the experience to grow stronger.

Grief and Loss

I have recently lost two parents within 6 months of each other.  Losing a loved one is never easy, but it can be less painful to remember that if you are grieving the death of a loved one, their qualities and love can live  on through your heart.  You can continue to love them in their absence which will allow you to go from grief to peace.

Try as much as possible to focus on their legacy of good feelings and especially watch out for intuitive guidance in different situations, as grief may cause you to be more reflective.

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