Category: Self-improvement

Can Anxiety be Changed or Improved?

BREATH IN CALM AND BREATH OUT WITH A SMILE – Practice this mindfulness exercise whenever you remember throughout the day & evening for 21 days and notice the change within your body and mind.

Anxiety is a habit of fearing the worst case scenario.   Anxiety arises from a healthy amygdala in your brain scouting for danger to keep you safe.   Unfortunately any underlying fear based belief will fuel anxiety and keep it limiting your quality of life.

Beliefs such as ‘The world is a dangerous place’, or ‘people are not safe’ or ‘I have to always be on guard’  or ‘I’m afraid of humiliation’, ‘looking stupid’ will fuel anxiety and limit a fun-free healthy, happy YOU.

Apart from replacing old beliefs with new empowering beliefs, there are other ways to override the brain’s natural tendency to be negative.

THE MAGIC IN A SMILE   Learn what happens when you smile and why smiling causes happiness.  Apart from relaxing the facial muscles and calming the nervous system, smiling releases neuropeptides (tiny molecules) that allow neurons to communicate.  They facilitate messaging to the whole body and when you smile, the feel good neurotransmitters dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are all released.  This not only relaxes and calms your entire body, but can lower your heart rate and blood pressure.   Endorphins also act as a natural pain reliever – 100% organically without potential side effects.  The more you smile the more effective you are at breaking the brain’s natural tendency to think negatively.  If you smile often enough, you end up rewiring your brain to make positive patterns more often than negative ones. 

LETTING GO OF ATTACHMENTS  & OUTCOMES  – This includes:  PEOPLE, PLACES, THINGS, LIFE, FEARS, THE FAMILIAR, PAST, EXPECTATIONS…  Yes easier said then done.   Imagine for a moment, if there was a land slide and you found yourself falling off a cliff with rocks.   You attempt to cling onto any great lump of rock that is travelling alongside you.  You are clinging to it for dear life, thinking – ‘I’ve got to hold onto this’.  Well it doesn’t do a thing for you and it’s only making you more anxious and it is only when you realise this, you let go and relax.

Everybody is heading for death, yet we are ALL clinging to things in the hope that we will be safe.  And even though everything is moving, shifting and changing, we attach ourself to things and name all sorts of reasons and responsibilities –  wearing ourselves out gripping onto that rock.

So the wise thing to do is simply let go and relax.  

Suzi Tyler – Breakthroughs: Confidential Non-judgemental ‘in person’: Kent, London & Video Skype

+44(0)7836 635233  Email:  suzi@rapid-health.co.uk

 

10 Tips to Power your Self-Belief & Self Esteem

Do you suffer with low self-worth or low self-esteem?

  1.  Criticism withers you.  Praise builds you up.  If you are hard on yourself or perfectionist you may frequently feel you are ‘not enough’.  Spend the next 21 days repeating over in your mind  “I am enough”   Write it on your mirror, everywhere to allow it to really sink in.  And don’t worry if you don’t believe it, with sufficient determination and repetition, your unconscious mind will eventually believe!
  2. Decide what you want and why?  Get really clear, as your ‘whys’ are your motivators that inspire you into action.
  3. Every morning choose one thing to appreciate about yourself, so that at the end of the year you have a long list of positives that feed your self esteem.
  4.  Reward yourself every day with something enjoyable to look forward to, such as a delicious breakfast after an early morning workout.
  5.  Forgive past mistakes and take forward only the positive learnings.
  6. Take the focus off yourself.   Look outside your current difficulties and explore how you can make a positive contribution to someone else, your wider community or world.   You can grow your self worth super fast with this powerful action.
  7. Become aware of your self talk.  Make the pictures and words you use in your mind encouraging.
  8. Flush out those pesky limiting beliefs and replace with perky pleasurable ones instead.
  9. If you feel you are unappreciated, give out appreciation even more.  Appreciating the best in others can encourage others to appreciate the best in you.
  10. Take constructive criticism practically but not personally.  Reject destructive criticism and use ‘constructive’ criticism to improve.

“If you suspect your beliefs are holding you back, get in touch for a brief chat to find out how I can help you. Suzi”

 

 

How happy are you?

Happiness is a ‘general feeling’ that arises quite naturally as a result of thinking from a positive set of beliefs, thoughts and feelings.   Positive beliefs are essential for navigating life challenges with strength, courage and endurance.  Everyone will lose someone they love sooner or later… or they will leave someone they love.  Loss or the fear of loss underpins much unhappiness.

Relationships have always been significant for personal happiness, but have you ever considered your relationship with time? It is important to make peace with the past and simply yield to the future to embrace NOW.

Happiness can seem out of reach if you are struggling with day to day difficulties with a negative set of thought patterns from the past.  Momentum is key – the more consciously aware you become of how you are thinking, the less you will be affected by outside circumstances.

Are you critical, competitive and hard on yourself?  If you are, go a little easier on yourself and practice mindfulness compassion.

How can you start the day a little more positive?  If you don’t begin your day with a positive mindset, negative momentum will take hold and influence the day.   Science has proven that by actively searching out new positive ways of viewing the same things, you can flip your feelings into a better direction.

If you are going through a phase of feeling happy – allow yourself to enjoy it!  Momentum is King, so go for it!

Do you feel guilty feeling happy?  Are you punishing yourself for something?  Are you holding onto the past?  Are you willing to forgive yourself?  Sometimes happiness is just a decision away, so allow yourself to feel good.  It is not a goal to be put out into the future – Embrace NOW!

If you have been feeling depressed, go easy on yourself because you may only have access to feelings like relief.  Your pathway to happiness is to reach for anything that feels soothing…hope…acceptance…focusing on something like nature, sport, music, calm, tranquility.   Please ask for guidance.

So, having read the above, what simple action will you take today to create the kind of life that gives you a purposeful, peaceful, passionate HAPPY….and settle for nothing less!

Whist you are moving forward if you would like some help or guidance, I’d love to help you.

10 Tips to a Healthier You

10 Tips to a Healthier You

1.  Find a new hobby that includes exercise.   Search for some form of exercise that you look forward to.  Experiment until you find a few things that you enjoy.  My personal favourites are:  Salsa dancing, Body Balance classes, Yoga, Body Pump, cycling, playing games with kids, a bit of skiing occasionally.

2. Choose foods that feel energising.   Before you choose something, stop, pause consider….  tune into your intuition….

Ask – Is this going to benefit me?”   Savour your meals slowly and deliberately.  Whatever you eat – make it count.  Practically every food has had something negative written about it!   You just can’t go there or it will drive you insane!   So don’t get hung up about how good or not it is!  If you decide it is good – it will be!

3. Easier still…Stop obsessing about food and find a new focus to absorb you.

4.  A helpful tip is to cut back on ‘mindless’ eating by choosing to only eat whilst sitting down in a relaxed setting.

5. Eating a little of what you fancy might work for you – it does for me.    However, long term exposure to eating ‘processed’ sugary or fatty foods are going to drain your energy.   Remember in Tip 2 – Think BEFORE you eat – “is this going to energise me?”  Little and often is preferable to huge meals that crash your energy.

6. Every time you give into a habit you are making it stronger. Ask the question:” is this food helping me to create positive habits?” If the answer is no – ask yourself, “do I really need this?”

7. Get creative. Move out of any ‘boring’ comfort zone’. Experiment with one brand new recipe each week, have fun with your food.  Include a little protein with each meal to stop your sugar levels, energy and moods crashing. I create 3 new recipes each week by receiving a box of salad ingredients with recipes from Abel & Co.

8. Stop eating when 3/4 full.  Get comfortable with leaving food on your plate.

9. As a guide, aim to eat 2-3 balanced meals with 2 smaller protein or fruit snacks. Make those meals more delicious by savouring each mouthful, deliberately and with complete mindfulness.

10. TV with adverts contain commercials that persuade you to eat junk and it is hypnotising you.  Advertisers know this, that is why they spend millions on adverts during peak viewing.  Instead spend the evening with something or someone you love – your family, pet, hobby, exercise, a good film (free from adverts) a new project, course or an uplifting book…with healthy happy feelings.  Take a look at my new book: 9 Simple Steps for Happiness, with quotes, quick tips and easy fun processes that help you to be a Healthier, Happier You!

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