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Are you Suffering with Low Self-esteem?

Self-esteem is directly related to how much you like, approve, accept and value yourself. Low self-worth is a major contributor to low self-esteem.  Making self-worth contingent on external approval, achievements, academic success, appearance or popularity will hurt your inner self-worth and consequently harm your self-esteem.

We must learn how to value ourselves solely for the fact that we are human beings and accept that failure and mistakes are a natural normal part of the human experience.

If you are looking for help to develop your self-esteem, get in touch with Suzi on +44(0)7836 635233.

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7 Steps to Stop Procrastination

7 STEPS TO STOP PROCRASTINATING 

1. How to motivate yourself.   Finding out how to motivate yourself to get things achieved is a powerful resource worth a little discovery time.  If time is our greatest resource, it can be well worth the investment in discovering what brings out the best in you.  

2. Create a plan of things you wish to achieve.  “He/she who doesn’t plan, plans to fail.” Make a plan of the kind of habits that you really prefer.

3. Break down big projects and tasks into smaller manageable steps. Be realistic and flexible. 

4.  Encourage yourself do what you least want to do – FIRST.  Don’t wait for ‘the perfect time’ simply start. This is a Success Mastery Skill informed from the latest research studies (2018) – High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard. 

5. Motivation comes from action and helpful habits make life a whole lot easier.  Every action or non-action you take becomes stronger.  Learn mindfulness to become more aware of your patterns.

6. Imagine completing tasks and goals with an associated great feeling of reward and achievement.  We are hard wired to move towards pleasure so make ‘achievement’ its own reward and don’t forget to be your own best encourager.  Value and appreciate your efforts and this will strengthen feelings of self-worth and self-esteem.  

7.   Is fear limiting you?  According to UC Berkeley professor Martin Covington, fear of failure is directly linked to our self-worth. The limiting belief assumption is that failing to perform means we are not worthy.  If a person has repeated failures then this compounds the feeling of low self worth.  Rather than risking making a mistake or failing with the associated fear, we make ourselves stay stuck.  “If fear is keeping you stuck, get in touch.”

 If you wish to learn more get in touch with Suzi on +44(0)7836 635233 

Can Mindfulness Help Anxiety?

CAN MINDFULNESS HELP ANXIETY?
1.  Mindfulness is an approach that can train the mind to move out of the habit of insessant worrying.
2.  Anxiety sufferers are caught up in a stream of thought.  There is a constant vigilance and fearing a ‘perceived’ threat.  Perceived pressures and fears that have not yet happened and might never happen.
3.  Mindfulness is a practice of being fully present in the current moment.  There are many different styles of teaching mindfulness and each teacher will have their own personal approach.  Every fortnight, I host a Mindfulness Group Practice in my home practice in Birchington-on-Sea.
4.  My approach is to guide some formal exercises and to facilitate different mindfulness practices that can be enjoyed in between sessions.
5.  When you approach a mindfulness practice with a fresh and curious mind, you are training your mind to value simple things.  An attitude of gratitude with an optimistic, well-trained mind, has no time for anxiety and fear.
6.  When you include mindfulness ‘quality YOU TIME’ – you will discover what it is to feel really ALIVE.
New classes from January 2019.  Every fortnight – 11.30am Thursdays.  Birchington-on-Sea +44(0)7836 635233

If you are interested in my mindfulness group practice or private mentoring, get in touch.

Coping with Sudden Loss

HOW TO COPE WITH  A SUDDEN LOSS

It is important to give yourself as long as it takes to let the tears fall. The hard fact remains that all of us who lose someone dear, discover that in the end, buckets of tears won’t bring our loved one back.  There is no miracle undoing, no right or wrongs, except perhaps to escape into alcohol/drugs as they definitely make things worse in the end.  

Death can make us love more deeply and create stronger connections than ever.  Death is a pivotal moment that can plummet us into despair.  It can also teach us to live and value every second and understand what a miracle life is.

If you are not going anywhere and don’t want to see anyone or do anything, it is all to easy to think “what is the point?”

Before you know it you have slid back down the wall of that black hole and have to start clawing your way up to the top all over again.  

It may sound too simplistic to say keep busy, but the reality is the more time you spend on reflecting upon your loss, the more consuming it gets. If you can get to the point of finding something to occupy you, it can give your tormented mind a respite.

EFT Matrix Reimprinting is a magnificent helper especially if there is trauma present.   The technique is sensitive to your experience and can help facilitate a healing acceptance and inner peace.  If you have suffered a loss and are looking for some help get in touch.  

FREE confidential chat with Suzi Tyler +44(0)7836635233.

 

3 Blocks Holding You Back

WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK?

WE ALL HAVE A BUNCH OF HABITS & BEHAVIOURS THAT ARE ‘CONTROLLING’ US.  IS IT POSSIBLE TO CHANGE?

Sometimes the daily grind can blind us to what is most important to us.  Self-doubt, feeling lost, conflicted and dissatisfied are common habits to fall into.

1. IDENTITY  Make it a priority to get clear, who are you becoming? Motivation grows from taking daily actions. Learn how to bring out the best in yourself and others.  Make each moment count!

2. EMOTIONS  We all grow up with EMOTIONAL blocks.  e.g. regrets, grievances, guilt, shame, disappointments.  Why remove them?  Because they are draining your energy, slowing you down and distracting your focus.   On my journey I found I was carrying limiting beliefs, disappointments, disapprovals, guilts and rejection, which not only stress our nervous system and zap our energy; they validate our fears.  Through contrast, I can genuinely appreciate the value of having vital tools that deal with challenges, setbacks and life’s adversity.

3. LIMITING BELIEFS act like Gremlins in the software of our minds.  Beliefs are filters which delete, distort and generalise ‘the Truth’.  POSITIVE BELIEFS act like Super Powers.  With a willingness, it is now possible to update many ‘gremlin’ beliefs.

If you feel lost or confused, conflicted or stressed, take the first step to reach out for help and guidance.  Contact Suzi on +44(0)7836 635233  or email suzi@rapid-health.co.uk to find how to proceed.  

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Panic attack help

Panic attack help

Rapid relief from Anxiety/Panic Symptoms

Q.  How long will it take to be cured of panic attacks?  A.  Everyone is unique, but typically 3-6 sessions.   It depends on many factors such as:  1. Early life experiences.  2. Age of very first panic attack.  3. How symptoms have been managed.  4. Support network.  5. Attitude to life.  6.  A willingness, desire and commitment to succeed.

My specialism is curing panic attacks by using a powerful technique that neutralises trauma.  If you have more than one panic attack trauma, it will be helpful to neutralise the core culprits so that you do not get a fear spike overwhelm you.  The symptoms are caused by any associated sensory trigger, activating the stress response.

A personalised approach is required for each individual.  I give you a clear evaluation on your first session.  If your panic attack is caused by multiple aspects, they WILL require neutralising.

I practice in Birchington, Whitstable, Witherdenshall Retreat, Wingham, Kent and Harley Street,London W1, Facetime or Video Skype.

Get in touch with Suzi  +44(0)7836 635233 to have a confidential chat.

You can email: suzi@rapid-health.co.uk with any questions.

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Freedom from Panic Attacks

Panic Attack Triggers

The trouble with panic is that it comes on so fast.  It can make you weak when you want to be strong, scared when you want to be calm, muddled when you want to be clear.  Panic triggers can be anything associated with a sudden shock or trauma.

Panic attack emotions can develop rapidly.

The symptoms of panic can be terrifying and embarrassing.  Shaking, heart pounding, tightness, shortness of breath and even fainting.  It isn’t any wonder the mind looses perspective and flips out.  The truth is the ‘fear’ response is a natural reaction to keep you safe.

If you are ready to unlock your potential freedom from unpleasant symptoms of fear, get in touch now.

 

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3 Tips to Improve Relationships

Relationship Tips 

Happy relationships are possible when both parties stop blaming and start valuing what is good.  Open communication is vital to prevent little resentments stacking up.  Resentment destroys passion.  Find out what inspires intimacy and passion.   Prolonged stress, an imbalanced lifestyle, lack of trust, intolerance and impatience poison relationship happiness.

1. Communication to build Rapport and Trust:

Using ‘I feel’ sentences, rather than ‘you……’ is taking ownership of your feelings rather than attacking, criticising or blaming your partner.  Whenever you notice yourself saying ‘you…..’ notice how it calls out the ego and puts them on the defensive.  The ego will feel threatened and will automatically want to shift the blame round to you.  Therefore changing your conversation to ‘I prefer, I feel, I would really appreciate if you could help me here….., REALLY HELPS to build rapport and trust.

2.  Playful Passion

If you want to re-ignite some playful passion, how you say things is even more important than content.  A soft tonality with loving assertiveness is what you are aiming for.  ‘Think ‘playful’ before you speak.  A playful smile with playful eyes can inspire intimacy.  By contrast, impatient snappy, confrontational, disrespect is a passion killer.   Playing games together is a great way to ignite fun.

3.  Active Listening

If either one of you feels unheard – choose an object that one of you holds and whoever is holding the object gets to speak while the other listens without interrupting.  This helps to calm the conversation down and prevents you from talking over each other.

It isn’t just that someone isn’t actively listening and fully present, it is also that they will be listening through their own personal filter of understanding and emotional state.  If your partner is tired, stressed or unhappy, this will affect how they perceive anything you want to say.   If someone has come into a relationship with old hurts or prejudices, this will distort their perception of reality.   If you feel disrespected or misunderstood, these feelings fuel resentment and destroy passion.

You could ask:  ‘I feel you are resenting me, have I said or done something to upset you?’  If your partner offers some constructive criticism or insight, let them know you will take it on board.  If they offer destructive criticism and there is a definite difference, you have a choice whether or not, to let it in.     Perhaps the timing wasn’t quite right and an open conversation can achieve a better result if rescheduled.

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Not all of these kinds of communication will help with all relationships, but passion cannot survive when resentments build up.  Are there barriers in your relationship that have eroded love and intimacy?  Get in touch to reignite your relationship potential.

For confidential one-to-one couples and individual relationship coaching, get in touch with Suzi on 07836 635233 or email suzi@rapid-health.co.uk

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Stress & Anger Facts

How are anger and stress related?  Does one affect the other?

Anger is actually attempting to protect us from painful feelings that oftentimes makes us feel vulnerable and not in control.  e.g. shame, humiliation, perceived wrong doing, being forced to do something, trapped, pressured.  It can also be a learned habit being triggered from frustration, impatience or intolerance.

It is a very common to cover up fear, hurt and sadness with anger.  Interestingly pain alone is not enough to cause anger.  Anger occurs when pain is combined with an anger triggering thought.  Depression is anger directed inwards.  Aggression is anger directed outwards.  It’s good to stick up for yourself, but is aggression going to win you friends and influence people?   

Stress is a physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived harmful event or threat to survival.  Stress is a survival mechanism to mobilise us into action and keep us safe in an emergency.  Unfortunately unmanaged stress can spoil our long term health and relationships.

Stressors:  Fear, anxiety, pressure of exams, expectations, indecision, relationship conflict or loss, moving house, humiliation, rejection, perceived injustice, overwhelm, striving to be perfect, physical pain, low from an addiction, emotions of shame, helplessness and hopelessness, feeling out of control, offended, forced, trapped, personal boundaries violated, anger.

Is stress harmful, or does it have some benefits?  You may have heard that a little bit of stress is actually good for you.  In the right amount adrenaline can power you through a long day at work, boost your workouts and focus the mind.  Stress chemicals that include adrenaline and cortisol prepare you for a perceived threat.   When the perceived ‘threat’ is over, the body will do everything it can to re-establish balance.   However, if the threat is workload, perfectionism, a difficult relationship, hatred of another or self loathing, these will compound over time and threaten your quality of life.    What feels good to conquer the day, will eventually turn nasty.   So when does stress turn nasty…

Harmful effects of stress: fatigue, depression, anxiety, more prone to colds and flu, hormonal imbalances, Thyroid dysfunction, immune disorders, Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, ME, MS and IBS.   If the thyroid system becomes over strained…it is irreversible.  Stress has been linked to high blood pressure, strokes, acne, impaired memory and dementia.  Headaches and weight gain are worstened by too much stress.

Do we have a warning flag that indicates too much stress?  If you are feeling fatigued/exhausted, moody, irritable, frustrated, easy to anger or more intolerant than usual.

If you are struggling with stress, get in touch with Suzi 07836 635233 to learn how to create reserves of vibrant energy to enjoy the quality lifestyle you deserve.   Appointments are available in Birchington and Whitstable Kent and Harley Street, London W1.  Also Video Skype.

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What is Your Biggest Block?

 What is Your Biggest Block?

What is everyone’s BIGGEST BLOCK to becoming confident, visible and ultimately free?  If deep down you long to achieve something meaningful, but you hold yourself back, you MUST transform your CORE BELIEFS, so that they don’t HOLD YOU BACK, potentially…forever.

How you deal with setbacks is significant.  Setbacks can always become opportunities for growth and learning.    If you are challenging yourself by moving out of your comfort zone, there will always be setbacks, stops, starts, pauses…value them ALL as necessary feedback because experience develops expertise and strengthens your confidence muscle and ultimate growth.

Sabotage is very different.  This behaviour is often subconscious.  It is always caused by LIMITING BELIEFS.   Fortunately limiting beliefs can be re-wired and re-trained.  Sabotage eventually destroys self esteem, confidence and lasting success.

Discover YOUR sabotage blind spots and set yourself free.

Get in touch with Suzi on +44(0)7836 635233 for a free 20 min discovery chat.  suzi@rapid-health.co.uk

Skype, FaceTime, Zoom One-to-Ones  Kent & Harley Street Therapy Centre, London W1.

 

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